Mary Clark

I’m Mary Clark, I’m a Relationship Anarchy-ish coach, and I can help you to create the life and the relationships you want. I use Zoom for our meetings, so I work with clients all over the world. If you’re feeling confused or “stuck”, I can help you get unstuck. We can sort through the confusion together. We can talk one-on-one, or you can bring one or more friends/partners/loved ones, and I’ll help you figure out what’s healthiest for each of you.

It’s rare to find counselors and therapists who understand Relationship Anarchy, with its lack of hierarchy, lack of relationship escalators, and its abundance of individual styles. On the other hand, I don’t care if you’re “Relationship Anarchist enough”. There’s no judgment here. My focus is on helping you follow your own inner compass toward maximum happiness and health.

I’m queer, but you don’t have to be. I’m a Relationship Anarchist, and was polyamorous before I found out about RA. I’m extremely accepting of all people, including but not limited to straight, gay, transgender, nonbinary, intersex, asexual, graysexual, aromantic, gray-romantic, bisexual, pansexual, and all kinds of other folks. Basically, just tell me about yourself, because I’m not going to make assumptions.

I can help you to:

• Navigate RA and/or polyamory regardless of your current relationship configuration(s), including if you’re already married, and/or if you have children at home.

• Deal with jealousy when it’s not just jealousy? (Hint: these are often signs of past trauma and attachment injuries, in which case, we need special care!)

• Navigate manage mismatched attachment styles, when one of you wants more closeness, and another wants more space.

• Figure out whether it’s a difficult-but-healable relationship, or one that you should walk away from.

• Talk to friends and family about your RA and/or polyamorous relationships.

• ALWAYS stay true to yourself!!!