Russell Wilkie MFT

Providing HIPAA-compliant video-therapy across California.

I have been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist for 34 years. My career has been focused on relationships in non-traditional lifestyles; like polyamory, BDSM/Kink, consensual power exchange, open relationships, gender transition support, threesomes/moresomes, LGBTQI+ concerns and sex therapy.

I’m well versed in helping people navigate some of the more complex issues within polyamory; like infidelity, relationship contracts/agreements and broken agreements, sexual-desire discrepancy, jealousy, fear of displacement, calendar struggles, and communicating wants/needs.

To jumpstart relationship improvement, you might try these sentence completions: 1) If my relationship(s) were to improve, my contribution would be… 2) Quirks about me that might make that difficult are…

I am not a passive head-nodding, listening-type therapist, but one who is active, direct and challenging.

I also focus on you using clear communication to refine and clarify intimacy, honesty, love, directness and sex…

How we communicate and sooth one another’s emotional reactivity has more to do with quality relationships than focusing on our deep, dark, past issues.

Choosing a therapist is like choosing shoes – you may have to try some on before you find one that fits.