James R. Fleckenstein

Services:

I offer a unique combination in the relationship coaching world. I have over two decades of living nonmonogamously myself. I blend this with my research-driven method for helping people thrive.

I don’t believe in credentialism (see https://helpfulprofessor.com/credentialism/ and https://sociologydictionary.org/credentialism/). I’m not going to trot out a list of pieces of paper I’ve bought as if they mean something. But I invite you to consider this as you weigh your options:

• Few, if any, coaches have published work in peer-reviewed journals and academic textbooks. I have. My journal articles have attracted scores of citations from nonmonogamy researchers around the world. Let me help you.
• Few, if any, coaches have been called upon to speak on nonmonogamy to licensed professionals. I have. I’ve logged eight appearances before AASECT. Also, I’ve appeared at the AAMFT, SSTAR, and the SSSS. Let me help you.
• I created my Affirmative Intimacy® approach based on how successful nonmonogamists relate. Then I applied my own “special blend” of proven psychological practices to distill this and make it reproducible. My book, Love That Works: 38 Awesome Hacks for Amazing Relationships, is a roadmap for success for relationships of all kinds. Let me help you.

I’m delighted to work with adult humans of all identities and orientations. We’ll map out the journey to having the nonmonogamous relationship you want. Together, we’ll figure out how to get past the tough terrain, like:

• The Jealousy Wasteland
• Communications Chasm
• The Swamp of Bewildering Destinations
• The Pinnacle of Incompatible Visions
• The Emotional Supplies & Outfitters Shop, and
• Daunting Decision Point.

Profound change rarely happens in 50-minute stand-alone chunks. Research shows that many clients of traditional therapists quit too soon. I generally focus on coaching bundles that maximize your chances for success. I also offer more affordable online courses and self-paced trainings on key topics.

Grab a no-cost, 60-minute I.C.E (Identify-Clarify-Eliminate Obstacles) Zoom call at https://calendly.com/affirmativeintimacy/ice-call. Let’s see how we might work together. If my lived experience ends up not being a good fit for what you need, no problem. I’ll do what I can to refer you to someone who can help.